Many couples see it as a normal part of modern relationships: sharing live locations through apps like WhatsApp or Find My Friends. On the surface, it can feel like a simple way to check in, stay connected, or reassure each other, but experts say there’s a hidden risk when this habit turns into routine.

London-based therapist Phil Macleod, founder of Thought Reader, warns that constant location tracking can often be about control. In his work, he has seen how this behavior reflects deeper issues such as insecurity, mistrust, and fear of abandonment.

Moreover, in an interview with Fox 35 Orlando, relationship coach Derek Triplett warns that using geolocation to ‘track’ your partner can be a red flag. He notes that if there are no trust or control issues, there is no need to track your partner.

Here, we’ll explore why this pattern raises red flags, and how couples can address it before it undermines their relationship.

Why constant location tracking is a red flag

Occasional updates on a partner’s whereabouts—like texting to say you got home safely—can be a sign of care. But when one person starts monitoring the other all the time, the dynamic shifts. According to Macleod, this is where concern turns into surveillance.

“When location tracking becomes routine, expected, or obsessive, it often signals that the foundations of the relationship—trust, mutual respect, and emotional safety—may be missing”, he explains. In other words, it turns into a habit of anxiety or control.

If the tracking happens without consent, the impact can be even more damaging. One partner may feel watched, disempowered, or trapped, which mirrors patterns seen in controlling or emotionally abusive relationships. Even when both partners agree, the behavior can mask unresolved fears in one of them.

Macleod points out that this urge often comes from past trauma or trust issues. It can be tied to fears of betrayal, low self-worth, or the belief that love must be policed to feel secure. Instead of strengthening the connection, the relationship risks shifting from partnership to surveillance, leaving both people feeling less safe and less connected.

How to address tracking habits in your relationship

If you or your partner fell into the habit of tracking locations, the important step is to talk about it openly. It may feel uncomfortable, but avoiding the subject only makes the tension worse. Here are some ways to bring it up and set healthier boundaries:

Start with honesty: Share how tracking makes you feel, whether it’s pressure, mistrust, or a loss of independence. Frame it as a conversation, not an accusation.
Ask about the “why”: Try to understand the need behind the behavior. Is it fear of safety, past betrayal, or anxiety? Naming the root cause can help both partners respond with empathy.
Set clear boundaries: Decide together what feels respectful and supportive. Occasional check-ins may be fine, but constant monitoring shouldn’t be the default.
Rebuild trust gradually: If tracking comes from insecurity, focus on building trust in other ways, such as consistent communication, reassurance, or couples therapy.
Seek professional help if needed: If the behavior feels obsessive, controlling, or part of a wider pattern, reaching out to a therapist can provide guidance and support.

Healthy relationships are built on trust, not on knowing where someone is every second of the day. Recognizing the difference is the first step toward creating a connection rooted in respect and emotional safety.