{"id":28437,"date":"2026-06-27T12:30:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-27T17:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/?p=28437"},"modified":"2026-06-26T11:15:50","modified_gmt":"2026-06-26T16:15:50","slug":"a-nursing-student-cared-for-a-96-year-old-man-and-the-friendship-revealed-what-aging-support-often-misses","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/psychology\/a-nursing-student-cared-for-a-96-year-old-man-and-the-friendship-revealed-what-aging-support-often-misses-28437\/","title":{"rendered":"A nursing student cared for a 96-year-old man, and the friendship revealed what aging support often misses"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Jake Benoit started caregiving for a practical reason. He needed a way to support himself while studying for a master\u2019s in nursing at Duke University, but the job soon became much more than a paycheck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The 26-year-old student from Durham, North Carolina, found something many families quietly hope for when they look for eldercare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He formed a close friendship with John, a 96-year-old retired ophthalmologist with mild dementia, and that relationship helped shape the kind of nurse practitioner Benoit now hopes to become.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A job that became personal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benoit\u2019s path into care started long before nursing school. As a child, he spent afternoons at the outpatient clinic where his mother worked as an occupational therapist, watching her help people regain everyday skills like brushing their teeth, getting dressed, and cooking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"gb-element-a00da4e5\">\n<div><div class=\"gb-looper-46613eed\">\n<div class=\"gb-loop-item gb-loop-item-a8390598 post-28387 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-health resize-featured-image\">\n<h3 class=\"gb-text gb-text-24a51617\">Read More: <a href=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/health\/chemotherapy-tries-to-break-tumor-dna-but-one-protein-may-help-cancer-cells-repair-the-damage-and-survive-treatment-28387\/\">Chemotherapy tries to break tumor DNA, but one protein may help cancer cells repair the damage and survive treatment<\/a><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Patients would tell him, \u201cYour mom changed my life,\u201d and the message stuck. Years later, he joined CareYaya, a platform that connects families with background-checked student caregivers and companions for older adults. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The company describes itself as a senior care registry that helps families find in-home support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For Benoit, the work paid between $18 and $26 an hour, according to the interview material. The bigger reward came, however, from the time he spent with older adults whose lives did not fit neatly into a care plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The friendship with John<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of Benoit\u2019s first clients was John, who had retired from ophthalmology at 94. They met in the spring of 2024, when John was 96, and the connection quickly grew beyond rides, snacks, and pill containers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benoit drove him to church on Sundays, even though he said he is not religious. Afterward, they would often get something to eat and talk through the sermon in conversations Benoit described as nuanced and inspiring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1800\" height=\"1013\" src=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2.jpg\" alt=\"A nursing student and an elderly man engaged in a friendly game of Uno, highlighting the intergenerational connection formed through caregiving.\" class=\"wp-image-28439\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2.jpg 1800w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-2-150x84.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1800px) 100vw, 1800px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Beyond clinical tasks, the friendship between a student caregiver and his 96-year-old client shows the vital importance of companionship in eldercare.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They also played Uno and talked for hours. \u201cYou could call it an intergenerational win-win,\u201d Benoit said, adding that despite the decades between them, he considered John one of his best friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What caregiving really means<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Caregiving can sound simple from the outside\u2013a ride here, a snack there, a reminder to take medication. But anyone who has cared for an aging parent, grandparent, or neighbor knows the work is often more human than mechanical.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">John sometimes experienced mild agitation because of dementia. Benoit said his training helped him redirect attention, often by asking about favorite music and playing songs on Spotify, a small move that could help restore calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"gb-element-60c4d6c6\">\n<div><div class=\"gb-looper-a0b706f5\">\n<div class=\"gb-loop-item gb-loop-item-91fcc010 post-28382 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-nutrition resize-featured-image\">\n<h3 class=\"gb-text gb-text-f8c03209\">Read More: <a href=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/nutrition\/a-three-ingredient-drink-is-being-used-against-heat-fatigue-and-the-real-lesson-is-how-dehydration-quietly-drains-energy-28382\/\">A three-ingredient drink is being used against heat fatigue, and the real lesson is how dehydration quietly drains energy<\/a><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That is <a href=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/psychology\/most-people-dont-realize-that-many-parents-over-the-age-of-70-dont-feel-lonely-because-their-children-love-them-any-less-they-often-experience-a-more-subtle-kind-of-loss-they-no-longer-feel-needed-27430\/\">caregiving<\/a> at eye level. It is not only about finishing tasks, it is also about noticing when someone needs patience, conversation, or the comfort of a familiar tune.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A growing need across America<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benoit\u2019s story lands at a time when the United States is getting older fast. The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.census.gov\/topics\/population\/older-aging.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">U.S. Census Bureau<\/a> says the population aged 65 and older reached 55.8 million in 2020, after growing by 38.6% in just 10 years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That shift is already changing family life. AARP and the National Alliance for Caregiving reported in 2025 that 63 million Americans were family caregivers, about one in four adults, and that the number had risen sharply over the previous decade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Paid care is under pressure, too. The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics projects employment of home health and personal care aides will grow 17% from 2024 to 2034, with about 765,800 openings expected each year on average.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The lessons went both ways<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">After John died, his daughter sent Benoit a long email that moved him to tears. That moment stayed with him because it confirmed something he had already begun to feel: his clients were shaping him as much as he was helping them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He later cared for an 85-year-old author who had traveled the world and had moderate mobility issues. Part of his job was to keep her legs elevated, make sure she used a compression device, and sit with her through old films like \u201cBreakfast at Tiffany\u2019s,\u201d \u201cRoman Holiday,\u201d and \u201cLawrence of Arabia.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1800\" height=\"1013\" src=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1.jpg\" alt=\"Nursing student Jake Benoit and his 96-year-old friend John sitting together, highlighting the importance of intergenerational connections in eldercare.\" class=\"wp-image-28440\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1.jpg 1800w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/nursing-student-caregiver-elderly-friendship-1-150x84.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1800px) 100vw, 1800px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Nursing student Jake Benoit found that his role as a caregiver turned into a deep friendship, providing a new perspective on aging and patient care.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He also cared for an 86-year-old former U.S. ambassador to the Middle East who was writing memoirs. As they read through the pages together, Benoit asked questions and noticed that the conversation seemed to help the man sustain longer thoughts and sharpen his <a href=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/nutrition\/heart-healthy-does-not-always-mean-brain-safe-omega-3-supplements-linked-to-faster-cognitive-decline-in-older-adults-in-a-study-28185\/\">memory<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why it shaped his future<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Benoit now says working with older adults is a major reason he wants to become a nurse practitioner. That goal makes sense when you hear how he talks about the work. The job gave him not only clinical exposure, but also a front-row seat to aging, memory, dignity, and gratitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"gb-element-15544430\">\n<div><div class=\"gb-looper-4ed1d3d1\">\n<div class=\"gb-loop-item gb-loop-item-8d1def0d post-28378 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-health resize-featured-image\">\n<h3 class=\"gb-text gb-text-4a83253b\">Read More: <a href=\"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/health\/tirzepatide-is-moving-beyond-weight-loss-and-its-effect-on-sleep-apnea-could-change-how-doctors-read-nighttime-breathing-problems-28378\/\">Tirzepatide is moving beyond weight loss, and its effect on sleep apnea could change how doctors read nighttime breathing problems<\/a><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What does care look like when it is more than a checklist? In Benoit\u2019s case, it looked like Sunday drives, card games, movie nights, memoir pages, and conversations that crossed a 70-year age gap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">At the end of the day, his story points to a larger truth about eldercare in America. Families need help, students need meaningful work, and older adults often need something that cannot be measured in a medical chart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The main interview was published in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/paid-to-care-for-older-adults-2026-6\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><em>Business Insider<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jake Benoit started caregiving for a practical reason. 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