{"id":28105,"date":"2026-06-16T15:45:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-16T20:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/?p=28105"},"modified":"2026-06-16T09:01:58","modified_gmt":"2026-06-16T14:01:58","slug":"psychologists-say-people-with-high-levels-of-perfectionism-often-struggle-more-than-they-seem-to-when-life-throws-a-curveball","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/psychology\/psychologists-say-people-with-high-levels-of-perfectionism-often-struggle-more-than-they-seem-to-when-life-throws-a-curveball-28105\/","title":{"rendered":"Psychologists say people with high levels of perfectionism often struggle more than they seem to when life throws a curveball"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What happens when \u201cdoing your best\u201d turns into needing every step to go exactly as planned? For many people, perfectionism<\/a> starts as a drive to work hard, stay organized, and avoid sloppy mistakes. But when it becomes rigid, it can make ordinary change feel like a threat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Psychology research suggests the problem is not high standards by themselves. The trouble begins when mistakes feel personal, uncertainty feels unsafe, and changing direction feels like failure. That can lead to anxiety<\/a>, procrastination, and a kind of mental paralysis<\/a> just when flexibility matters most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why change feels harder<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Perfectionism is often described as a mix of high personal standards, concern over mistakes, and doubt about whether one\u2019s actions are good enough. In plain English, that means the person is not just trying to do well. They may also be scanning constantly for what could go wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That mindset can be useful in a few situations, such as checking a medical form or reviewing an important work report. But life rarely behaves like a checklist. New bosses arrive, deadlines shift, families move, routines break, and suddenly the \u201cperfect plan\u201d does not fit the day anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The flexibility gap<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A recent study by Hung Nguyen and Eric M. J. Morris from La Trobe University<\/a> looked at clinical perfectionism and psychological flexibility in 210 adults. Psychological flexibility<\/a> means being able to notice uncomfortable thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them, then still acting in ways that match your values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The researchers found that higher clinical perfectionism was linked with more distress and lower well-being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The study also pointed to rigid inaction, avoiding uncomfortable feelings, and taking perfectionistic thoughts too literally as part of the pattern. In practical terms, that can look like overthinking a small decision until nothing gets done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When mistakes feel too costly<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

For a perfectionist, a simple change can carry extra weight. A new task at work is not just a new task. It may feel like a test of competence, identity, and reputation all at once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s where the all-or-nothing trap comes in. If the result cannot be excellent, the brain may label it as a total failure. What should be a rough draft becomes a final verdict, and that is a tiring way to live.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anxiety and delay<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This pattern helps explain why perfectionism often goes hand in hand with procrastination. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A meta-analysis in Social Behavior and Personality<\/a> found that perfectionist concerns were positively linked with procrastination, while perfectionistic strivings were negatively linked with it. In other words, fear-based perfectionism and goal-focused effort do not behave the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Another study from the University of Kent<\/a> found that worry was tied to procrastination and perfectionism, especially concern over mistakes and doubts about actions. That might sound familiar to anyone who has rewritten one email five times, then still felt unsure before hitting send.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not all perfectionism is the same<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Researchers often separate adaptive perfectionism from maladaptive perfectionism. Adaptive perfectionism can involve high standards, discipline, and pride in careful work. The person can still adjust, learn, and move on when something goes wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maladaptive perfectionism is different. It is driven more by fear, harsh self-criticism, and the sense that \u201cgood enough\u201d is not acceptable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A 2025 PLOS One study<\/a> described perfectionism as multidimensional and noted that maladaptive forms have been linked with anxiety, distress, lower self-compassion<\/a>, avoidant coping, and procrastination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why this matters even more nowadays<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The pressure to be perfect is not only a private struggle. A 2026 release from the American Psychological Association<\/a> reported research in Psychological Bulletin<\/a> showing that self-reported perfectionism increased among college students between 1989 and 2024, based on 307 studies and more than 82,000 students in the United States, Canada, and Britain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thomas Curran<\/a> of the London School of Economics and Political Science put it bluntly, saying, \u201cPerfectionism is a public health risk.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The same release noted that higher perfectionism remained associated with symptoms such as depression and anxiety over time. That does not mean perfectionism causes every problem, but experts warn it may add pressure to an already demanding world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to build more flexibility<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The goal is not to stop caring. It is to loosen the grip. A useful first step is changing the inner script from \u201cThis has to be perfect\u201d to \u201cThis needs to be clear, useful, and done within the time I have.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Small experiments help too. Try sending a low-stakes message without polishing it for too long, changing a familiar route, or finishing a task at \u201cgood enough\u201d quality when the situation does not require more. Little by little, the brain learns that imperfection is not dangerous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What support can do<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Therapy can help when perfectionism starts interfering with work, school, relationships, or daily decisions. Approaches that teach emotional regulation<\/a>, self-compassion, and flexible action may be especially useful, because they target the fear and rigidity beneath the behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the end of the day, perfectionism becomes a problem when it stops helping a person adapt. Change will always bring uncertainty. The healthier skill is not controlling every detail, but staying steady enough to act when life throws you a curveball and not freeze up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The main study has been published in <\/a>Clinical Psychologist<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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