{"id":18216,"date":"2025-08-30T09:00:47","date_gmt":"2025-08-30T13:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/?p=18216"},"modified":"2025-08-22T06:28:33","modified_gmt":"2025-08-22T10:28:33","slug":"the-phrase-people-with-high-emotional-intelligence-use-when-theyre-criticized-that-works-every-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/okdiario.com\/metabolic\/en\/psychology\/relationships-and-society\/the-phrase-people-with-high-emotional-intelligence-use-when-theyre-criticized-that-works-every-time-18216\/","title":{"rendered":"The phrase people with high emotional intelligence use when they’re criticized that works every time"},"content":{"rendered":"

Criticism can be quite hard to handle. Some people shut down while others lash out<\/strong><\/a>, but those with high emotional intelligence seem to manage these moments with a calm that leaves everyone else wondering how they do it.<\/p>\n

Here, we want to highlight a simple phrase: “Thanks for telling me. I’ll think about it<\/strong>“. Simple, neutral, and effective, it keeps emotions in check while showing respect to the other person. Let’s look at why this works so well and how you can use it in different areas of your life.<\/p>\n

Why this phrase works when someone criticizes you<\/h2>\n

When people with strong emotional intelligence hear criticism, they don’t rush to defend themselves or attack back. Instead, they pause. “Thanks for telling me. I’ll think about it” communicates self-control, openness, and a willingness to reflect<\/strong> without giving up ground.<\/p>\n

The psychology behind this response goes back to Daniel Goleman’s work on emotional intelligence. He describes self-regulation as a key skill: the ability to manage impulses and respond thoughtfully<\/strong> instead of reacting automatically.<\/p>\n

Most defensive reactions come from the amygdala, the brain’s alarm system, which fuels fight-or-flight responses. By pausing and using this phrase, you shift control to the prefrontal cortex<\/strong>, the part of the brain that handles reasoning and decision-making.<\/p>\n

That shift stops an argument from escalating, prevents you from saying something you’ll regret, and shows the other person you’re not dismissive. There’s no sarcasm in the words, just calm acknowledgment. It buys time to reflect later and decide whether the criticism is useful or not<\/strong>. Neuroscientists like Robert Levenson have even linked this kind of physiological regulation to stronger relationships over time.<\/p>\n

How to use it in different contexts<\/h2>\n

This phrase can work in the office, at home, or even online. What matters is how you deliver it: steady tone, no edge, and genuine neutrality. Here are a few ways you can implement it in different scenarios:<\/p>\n